Thursday, May 29, 2014

Be Kind

*This post originally appeared on my old blog (It's A Beautiful Ride) after Sandy Hook.  I want to share it again after what happened in California.  It is not the easiest way to live, and I don't always act this way, but I feel as though it is the most important.*

I have been trying so hard to understand how a person could take so many lives, how they could target the innocent, how they could resort to such insane violence.  And I've been thinking so hard about what we can do to prevent tragedies like Sandy Hook Elementary and the University of California, Santa Barbara.

We need to start with ourselves.  How do we treat the people around us, at home, at work, in our everyday interactions?  Are we kind?  How do we resolve conflict?  With kindness and empathy or with emotional and physical pain?

We need to stop. Stop hurting each other, stop judging each other, stop intentionally inflicting pain on each other.

Just Be Kind.

That does not mean you have to like everyone or even ever see eye-to-eye.  It means recognizing we are all different, but we all have worth.  It means not judging the person in the store or the co-worker down the hall.  It means "You do your thing, I'll do mine and when we cross paths we'll be kind."

Start today, right now, right where you are.  Show kindness to the people in your home.  Resove conflict without inflicting pain.  And if you can't, then get help to learn how.  Teach children to be kind so that when they grow up they know how to peacefully interact with people.

We need to start, right now, being kind.  To EVERYONE.

Thursday, May 22, 2014

Ready for Kindergarten

I have to admit, I was a little apprehensive about what Segundo's teacher might say at his year end conference.  He is a pretty normal learner, not too fast and not too slow.  But he is so different from Prima, who learns mostly at lightning speed, that I sometimes worry about him and how he learns.  (It's a struggle not to compare them!)  Segundo has been with the same teacher for almost two years (there is substitute teacher now) and some conferences have left me feeling as though he was struggling a little at school, but not at home.  Plus, he is notorious for knowing way more than he let's on!

This conference was the best one I have ever had about Segundo!  His teacher said he was absolutely ready for Kindergarten, and meeting all his skill sets exactly as he should be!

End of Year Teacher Gifts

Today is his last day of preschool ever, and I cannot believe how big he is.  Segundo has grown so much in the past two years, from a little Preschooler with a backpack almost as big as him into an Almost-Kindergartener who has friends and can be super independent.  If I ask him a million questions about his day, he actually tells me about the things he does in school!  He plays with the other kids and gets excited about his projects.  He's quiet and shy, rambunctious and silly, and he's comfortable being who he is at school now.

Bring on Kindergarten; Segundo's going to rock it!

Friday, May 16, 2014

Grateful Friday: May 16th, 2014

"Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings." - William Arthur Ward

Things I Can't Say:  
Today, I am so thankful to Things I Can't Say for giving me a chance to guest post today!  Check it out! :)

Monday, May 12, 2014

Thoughts on Mother's Day

Mother's Day sometimes gets a bad rep.  It can be a day of hurt and pain for many people, instead of the celebration it was intended as.  People think that Mother's Day is only for those of us with kids.  But I don't think it should be limited to us "breeders".  What about all the other women who have touched your life in some way?  If you stop and think about it, there have probably been many "mothers" in your life:

The doctor who gave you the tools to get healthy.

The college roommate who talked you through a break-up at 2:00am.

The teacher who gave you extra help in school.

The counselor who helped you get back on your feet.

The stranger who paid for your meal.

The Aunt who played with you, spoiled you, and listened when you couldn't talk to your parents.

The Grandma who did the same thing.

The best friend who always knows what to say to cheer you up.

The spouse that took care of you when you were sick as a dog.

The sister and sister-in-law who always has your back.

You don't have to be a "Mom" to have been a mom to someone.  In some ways, we are all Mothers because we each affect the people in our lives.

So today, take a moment a say Thank You to the women in your life who helped raise you, no matter who they are.

Thursday, May 8, 2014

What I Need

Last night, I really needed to go for a run.  I was in a super bad mood, tired and cranky, and getting down on myself about everything.  I really needed to run.  But I didn't.  I went to bed instead, in a bad mood, and woke up this morning, in a bad mood.

You know, running isn't usually something I need, it's almost always been something to check off my list and a way to keep healthy.  But over the last couple weeks, I've started to notice a small change.  I'll be in a bad mood, upset with a hard day or just really irritated with life.  And then I'll run, mostly on the treadmill while watching old seasons of The Big Bang Theory.

When I'm done, the bad mood is gone.  Something happens while pounding out some miles and ignoring everything else.  I just feel better.

So this morning, when I woke up and still couldn't shake my irritated feeling, I promised myself I would run after I dropped Prima and Segundo off at school.  Terzo and I got home, didn't even walk in the door, got out the stroller, and we were off.

And now my day is going to be awesome, all because of a run.  I kind of like that!

What do you need now that you didn't before? :)

Friday, May 2, 2014

Grateful Friday: May 2nd, 2014

"Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings." - William Arthur Ward

A Great Pediatrician:
Terzo broke out into hives last week and his pediatrician's office was phenomenal!  They answered every question I had, gave us super clear instructions on how to help him, called that night to check up on him, and then explained everything the next day at his appointment.  I couldn't have asked for better help or a better place to place my trust.

A shared cookie:
This past week, My Other Half came home tired from taking an exam from work.  Prima unexpectedly shared the big cookie she received from school with all of us.  While not out of character for her, it was still a super sweet gesture and brought us all a few moments of peace on a slightly stressful day.